Comments on: Wedding Invitation Wording?

By: confused in TX

confused in TX — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:43:10 +0000

Help- daugther getting married we (her parents) are hosting the wedding – however mother in law wants their names on the wedding invitation as well- how do I handled this?

By: Joyce Mizock

Joyce Mizock — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 19:31:16 +0000

I am an invitation designer and find that more and more couples are opting to exclude small children from both the wedding and reception. Concerns are usually about disruptive behavior, budget, and safety issues. My current clients’ wedding will take place at a friend’s home with a large unfenced swimming pool. We plan to include the “adults only” message first on the Save the Date card along with e-mail addresses for both bride and groom for “questions, comments and congratulations” since they don’t want to manage a wedding website.

The “adults only” wording will also be on the RSVP card with the formal invitation, but they are hoping to deal with it up front more informally by way of the Save the Date. My past experience has shown that a lot of people REALLY ARE CLUELESS and will RSVP for the entire family even though the “Mr. and Mrs.” are the only ones addressed on the envelope.

By: Barb

Barb — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 04:14:20 +0000

Both of my parents are deceased and I wanted to put my siblings names even though my fiance and I are paying for the wedding. However after reading your answers I think I may also go with “Together with their families”. Thanks for the help!

By: An excellent advice giver

An excellent advice giver — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:05:59 +0000

Ok on the invitations only put the names of people who are hosting (paying) for the wedding. Simple as that.
If your father and step mom are paying put their names only (or maybe add your mother’s name on another line to let people know you are her daughter).

If you and your fiance are paying then put your names as hosting and leave out the parents or put your names and then daugther of (dad and mother’s name only no step parents) and then son of (parents).

On the RSVP for the reception put ADULT only reception. And at the bottom of the invitation you can also put adult only reception to follow.
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By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 03:36:59 +0000

You are not writing a novel, you are inviting people to an important ocassion.
The rest of this is nonsense. Have you ever been to a wedding? Have you ever hosted a party?
The balancing act is this: you want people to dedicate a long day to your celebration. Why should they bother? If you’re serving Bud Lite and beenieweenies, they might prefer to stay home.
Thus: invite people who give a damn about you. If there are only 15 people on earth who give a damn about you, deal with it.
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By: iloveweddings

iloveweddings — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:54:59 +0000

Wow….OK….so many questions.

First of all….you have the wording on your invite PERFECT! It would be very, very distracting to list all the names. Definitely go with "Together with their families."

On the reception card….No, no, no. Do not list all the names. I have never seen that and it’s a bit confusing. A reception card never lists anyone’s name(s). AND, this would be the perfect opportunity to expand on your "adults only" information.

So, for the reception card:

Please join us for an adult reception
(those age 16 and over)
following the ceremony in the
back gardens of the mansion.

For more information, please
refer to our wedding website at:
xxxxxxxxxx

I do understand if you want to mention everyone’s name, but this can be done in a wedding program or by giving a toast at the reception. OR….people don’t really need to know! Really! There are so many blended families now, everyone understands.
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By: weddingqueen

weddingqueen — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:30:59 +0000

You’re not obligated to invite children to your wedding, but you’d let your guests know who is invited only by listing the names of the guests invited on the inner envelope and omitting the names of those you do not want to invite.

Your wording would depend on the formality and venue. The wording you are using is informal and not usually used for a church wedding.
Get yourself a good wedding etiquette book like Peggy Post’s Etiquette which should serve you well.
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http://www.topweddingquestions.com/forum/Wedding_Invitations_C23/Wedding_Invitation_Wording%2C_Addressing_%26_Etiquette_F40/

http://www.topweddingsites.com/wedding_invitations_announcements.html

By: bseig06

bseig06 — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 02:13:59 +0000

You could either do
Your Name & Fiance
TOgehter with their families
Invite you to join them for their wedding
DATE
in
City, State

You could put a small card in the invitation saying, "the bride and groom have requested an adult only reception and ceremony*

and I agree, you don’t need to inform them about alcohol.
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By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 01:44:59 +0000

Wow.

You don’t need to inform the wedding guests if there will be alcohol there or not. People should not come to weddings expecting alcohol for free anyway.

The invitation should have something along the lines of it being adults only, especially if the ceremony and reception are both to be no kids allowed.

Regarding the wording with the parents… I have no idea. Good luck on that. There are some sites around that can help with wording.
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