Wedding invitation etiquette. How do I make it clear on my invitation that there is no +1?
June 23, 2010
I go to a church where we have small group studies that 20-40 people attend (this is in a church of about 5000+ members). Now, generally the weddings at my church are practically open invitation, which I will certainly not have that. Well, in my small group, I am only going to invite like a little over half of the people. If i start inviting everyone, my wedding will be 300 plus people. I have been in so many small groups so I want to invite a lot of old friends and not just anyone because I’ve known them a few months in my new small group. I want to stop at 150. How do I tell people that they aren’t invited? Also, how do I word the invitation to let them know that only the people / person on the invitation is invited and they don’t have a ‘plus 1′ or ‘plus guest’ option???? Because there are going to be people that will assume their invited and just come. I need to let them know they’re not. I’m on a budget and the space I’m getting married in is too small. Also, this is a pre ordered plate dinner wedding.
Pre-fill the RSVP card for them like this:
Name: Miss Mary Smith
__ of __1__ accepts
That way its perfectly clear that only 1 person – Mary Smith – is invited.
Just be aware that etiquette says that if a person is married, engaged, or living with someone that they are supposed to be invited along with their spouse, fiance, or live-in. To invite a single unattached person solo is fine, but to invite a married or engaged person solo is a no-no.
5 Responses to “Wedding invitation etiquette. How do I make it clear on my invitation that there is no +1?”
On your invitation put: By invitation only.
People should have the manners to not show up to something they are not invited to.
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By Zachariah on Jun 23, 2010
Perhaps this can be discussed with a Pastor at the Church you attend. While I can understand your reasons, you really should look at this from a Christian perspective, which from the wording of this question, may not be what is happening
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By not 2 B fooled on Jun 23, 2010
Pre-fill the RSVP card for them like this:
Name: Miss Mary Smith
__ of __1__ accepts
That way its perfectly clear that only 1 person – Mary Smith – is invited.
Just be aware that etiquette says that if a person is married, engaged, or living with someone that they are supposed to be invited along with their spouse, fiance, or live-in. To invite a single unattached person solo is fine, but to invite a married or engaged person solo is a no-no.
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By nova_queen_28 on Jun 23, 2010
First of all you can’t stop people from coming to the church to witness your marriage. The invitation will be for the dinner. You don’t have to invite people to the church but if they show up don’t stress over it.
Second per invitation etiquette only the people on the invitation are invited. So if you do not put an guest on the inner envelope, then no guest was invited. You can simplify this further by included only accept or regret on the RSVP card, instead of leaving a space for who is coming. (You could even print the name of who is invited on the card for them.)
You do not have to explain to anyone why they are or are not invited. If anyone asks you can explain that you are on a strict budget and are only able to invite so many people. If people talk to you about your wedding and you know they are not invited, just smile and nod, there is no need to tell anyone oh by the way you’re not invited. They will figure it out when they don’t get an invitation.
Now if anyone puts a guest on the RSVP card that was not invited, you may have to contact that person and explain that your budget will not allow for any extra guests, but you should be OK. Also as you get regrets you may have extra space to allow close friend to bring a guest if you’d like. Not everyone you invite will be able to attend.
Good luck!
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By Reba on Jun 23, 2010
limited seatings…plz state the exact amount of guests that WILL be coming……….somethin like that
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By Nisreen A on Jun 23, 2010