Comments on: Wedding invitation etiquette and timing? http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing Wedding Invitation Etiquette and more ...... Wed, 08 Sep 2010 09:15:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: stephanie http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-42 stephanie Wed, 16 May 2007 14:32:16 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-42 here is my opinion.. i am getting married in august and i am NOT inviting all of my friends (mostly because of cost factors). I think that your friend did not invite you and when you asked you made him feel obligated to send you an invitation. Wedding invitations are usually sent out about 6 weeks for the wedding~ and the reception people need to know food number atleast 42 hours ahead of time. so i think that you are not invited to his wedding. you can go to the ceremony if you want (as anyone can show up there) but i think you are not invited to the reception as you have invitation yet. sorry dude!<br><b>References : </b><br> here is my opinion..
i am getting married in august and i am NOT inviting all of my friends (mostly because of cost factors). I think that your friend did not invite you and when you asked you made him feel obligated to send you an invitation. Wedding invitations are usually sent out about 6 weeks for the wedding~ and the reception people need to know food number atleast 42 hours ahead of time. so i think that you are not invited to his wedding. you can go to the ceremony if you want (as anyone can show up there) but i think you are not invited to the reception as you have invitation yet. sorry dude!
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]]> By: Lilli http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-41 Lilli Wed, 16 May 2007 14:25:39 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-41 You don't have to give a gift. You may if you choose. I doubt he will go through the wedding list to see who didn't cough one up! Don't worry about it. Either he was trying to make you feel good, and didn't really intend to invite you, or he messed up. You should never send invitations that closely to the time, for exactly the reasons you mentioned!<br><b>References : </b><br> You don't have to give a gift. You may if you choose. I doubt he will go through the wedding list to see who didn't cough one up! Don't worry about it.

Either he was trying to make you feel good, and didn't really intend to invite you, or he messed up. You should never send invitations that closely to the time, for exactly the reasons you mentioned!
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]]> By: Terri http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-40 Terri Wed, 16 May 2007 13:09:34 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-40 If you did not receive a formal invitation I would not send a gift. Even if you did, you are not required to send one whether you can go or not. Less than a week to get an invitation out, responses back, AND the information to the companies they reserved with? Something smells fishy.<br><b>References : </b><br> If you did not receive a formal invitation I would not send a gift.

Even if you did, you are not required to send one whether you can go or not.

Less than a week to get an invitation out, responses back, AND the information to the companies they reserved with?

Something smells fishy.
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]]> By: Can You Help Me? http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-39 Can You Help Me? Wed, 16 May 2007 12:01:59 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-39 Typically you send out wedding invitations 6 weeks before the wedding. So it seems pretty odd that he would wait till the week of. I would be surprised if you even get the invitiation he mentioned, as I doubt he is sending one. I would not get them a gift, this person does not seem like they are a very good friend to me. For our wedding we didn't send invitations to all of our friends (because of cost of invitations) but we let them know that they were invited long before the wedding (like months).<br><b>References : </b><br> Typically you send out wedding invitations 6 weeks before the wedding. So it seems pretty odd that he would wait till the week of. I would be surprised if you even get the invitiation he mentioned, as I doubt he is sending one. I would not get them a gift, this person does not seem like they are a very good friend to me. For our wedding we didn't send invitations to all of our friends (because of cost of invitations) but we let them know that they were invited long before the wedding (like months).
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]]> By: Etiquette Gal http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-38 Etiquette Gal Wed, 16 May 2007 11:36:44 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-38 If you do not receive an invitation, you are not invited. Your friend is being rude by leading you on, and because it is rude to not send all the invitations at once. (It was also not polite of you to "fish for" an invitation-- but what he did is much worse.) You may gift, or not, as you desire. Wedding gifts are never mandatory. If you do choose to gift, you NEVER take the gift with you to the wedding-- you send it to their home. I, personally, would no longer want to be friends with someone who treated me so poorly-- let alone sending them gifts to reward them for their horrid behavior!<br><b>References : </b><br>Miss Manners books and etiquettehell.com (discussion board) If you do not receive an invitation, you are not invited.

Your friend is being rude by leading you on, and because it is rude to not send all the invitations at once. (It was also not polite of you to "fish for" an invitation– but what he did is much worse.)

You may gift, or not, as you desire. Wedding gifts are never mandatory. If you do choose to gift, you NEVER take the gift with you to the wedding– you send it to their home.

I, personally, would no longer want to be friends with someone who treated me so poorly– let alone sending them gifts to reward them for their horrid behavior!
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]]> By: duritzgirl4 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-37 duritzgirl4 Wed, 16 May 2007 10:30:47 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-37 You probably weren't invited until you asked! You put him on the spot, and he didn't know what else to say. I bet he dropped the invite in the mail to you as soon as he got home!<br><b>References : </b><br> You probably weren't invited until you asked! You put him on the spot, and he didn't know what else to say. I bet he dropped the invite in the mail to you as soon as he got home!
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]]> By: kateqd30 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-36 kateqd30 Wed, 16 May 2007 09:53:21 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-36 Make a mental note to yourself to never do this again, you have put both of you in terribly akward positions by "joking" around with that question.<br><b>References : </b><br> Make a mental note to yourself to never do this again, you have put both of you in terribly akward positions by "joking" around with that question.
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]]> By: FOOF http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-35 FOOF Wed, 16 May 2007 05:20:24 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-35 I agree with the top answer. If not, then its up to you whether you buy them a gift or not really.<br><b>References : </b><br> I agree with the top answer.
If not, then its up to you whether you buy them a gift or not really.
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]]> By: warplesnorkle http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-34 warplesnorkle Wed, 16 May 2007 04:44:30 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-34 Okay, first off, the invitations should be sent way before the week of the wedding. Like weeks or months before. Secondly, It's perfectly Okay to send the gift after the actual wedding (I would wait about a week to send it if they are going on their honeymoon), and it is polite to get a gift for them even if you don't go. If you want to go to the wedding and need to know the time and place, ask somebody who already got their invitation, and start preparing.<br><b>References : </b><br> Okay, first off, the invitations should be sent way before the week of the wedding. Like weeks or months before. Secondly, It's perfectly Okay to send the gift after the actual wedding (I would wait about a week to send it if they are going on their honeymoon), and it is polite to get a gift for them even if you don't go. If you want to go to the wedding and need to know the time and place, ask somebody who already got their invitation, and start preparing.
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]]> By: whitexsaucer http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing/comment-page-1#comment-33 whitexsaucer Wed, 16 May 2007 04:03:29 +0000 http://www.weddinginvitationetiquette.net/wedding-invitation-etiquette/wedding-invitation-etiquette-and-timing#comment-33 I think he just said that and dodged a bullet -- badly.<br><b>References : </b><br> I think he just said that and dodged a bullet — badly.
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