wedding invitation etiquette…addressing.
November 27, 2009
This is a ten yr couple that are not married…both have been married before and neither is a widow or er.
Mr. John Smith & Mrs. Jane Johnson
999 Thier Street
New York, NY 90091
or what ever…is that right how I address the man first and then the woman with both their proper name??? thanks ppl!!!
dang dang!! okay I will get her as Ms.!!! Thanks everyone!!! lol I hate this part of it!! who even has etiquette anymore?!?!?!
I feel most wedding etiquette is total bs. But yes, that sounds correct.
She may prefer Ms. as she is not married to Mr. Johnson anymore.
13 Responses to “wedding invitation etiquette…addressing.”
If Jane is no longer married she’s not a MRS. It’s MS. or MISS. But other than that you’re spot on!
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My own wedding 2 years ago.
By Jacacaca on Nov 27, 2009
yep you address them seperately. this is correct
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By Tea on Nov 27, 2009
I feel most wedding etiquette is total bs. But yes, that sounds correct.
She may prefer Ms. as she is not married to Mr. Johnson anymore.
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By 1973 on Nov 27, 2009
She’s no longer married, and she’s an adult woman, so it would be Ms. Otherwise, you got it!!!
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By MissKnowItAll on Nov 27, 2009
Christina Noname
and
John Smith
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage
Friday the twenty-fourth of April
Two thousand and nine
at four o’clock in the afternoon
St. Joseph’s Church
New York, NY
Adult reception to follow
Stephanie’s
New York, NY
This is what the program told me to do for proper wedding invitations. Ladies first. This is for their second marriages. Neither of them have been widowed they were both divorced.
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By sambina2 on Nov 27, 2009
Everyone is actually wrong. If she was married, and still has her married name it would be mrs. If she is divorced and has her maiden name it is Ms. That’s what etiquette says. However, most people don’t follow etiquette so if you think she’d rather be a Ms. use that…
Also unmarried couples that share a residence you are supposed to alphabetize according to last names.. and they go on separate lines… check out the link I provided.. it explains everything.
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http://www.southworth.com/page.php?id=127
By Michelle on Nov 27, 2009
Point of order here… The two names would not go on the same line since they are not married. They go on two separate lines like this:
Ms. Jane Johnson
Mr. John Smith
999 Their Street
New York, NY 90091
When both names are on the same line with an "and" between, it indicates marriage.
Hope this helps!
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By geeky on Nov 27, 2009
Yes, it is definitely "Ms" not "Mrs"
If you are having two envelopes (outer and inner) you would address the OUTER envelope:
Mr Johnathan Smith
999 Their Street
New York, NY 90091
And the INNER envelope:
Mr Johnathan Smith
Ms Jane Johnson
If you’re only doing one envelope, it would be:
Ms Jane Johnson
Mr Johnathan Smith
(Woman First)
http://www.paperpotpourri.invitations.com/content/weddingguide/stationery.mhtml
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By Just tryin' to help on Nov 27, 2009
Ms. Jane Johnson
Mr. John Smith
999 Thier Street
New York, NY 90091
If they’re not married, then separate lines and alphabetized by last name.
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By miss_nikki on Nov 27, 2009
For addressing the envelope, you should do the following:
OUTER envelope (formal name):
Mr Johnathan Smith
Ms Jane Johnson
999 Their Street
New York, NY 90091
INNER envelope (informal/personal name, or whatever you call them – Aunt, Uncle, etc):
John & Jane
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By Keva on Nov 27, 2009
The honour of the presence of / The pleasure of the company of
BLANK LINE
is requested on the occasion of the marriage of
Ms. Betty Bride, daughter of
Mr. James Totaljerk
Ms. Janet Totaljerk Newman
to Mr. Lucky Groom, son of …
You print the invitations with a blank space to write in names. You use the same color ink to write as the invitations are printed in. If the couple fits the Mr & Mrs format and is OK with being addressed that way, then go for it. However a lot of women don’t care for that form of address; they have a name of their very own and want to use that, not their hubby’s name. If you are writing in two seperate names then it is OK to write them on a single line like this
Mr Henry Hambone and Ms Sandra Soupbone
or to two give each name a line of its own.
A lot of people have etiquette. If it wasn’t important then the Miss Manners books wouldn’t continue to sell well year after year.
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By kill_yr_television on Nov 27, 2009
Actually the others that have commented are wrong, once a Mrs. always a Mrs. So even though she is no longer married she is still Mrs. Johnson.
I would suggest sending each of them an invitation just inviting them or invite one of the that you are closer to with guest. Or each of them and to not be rude you put "& guest" on the end.
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By prettyblueeyes101010 on Nov 27, 2009
Yes, exactly. It’s traditional to put the man’s name first, although you don’t have to: if Jane Johnson is your aunt, for example, and John Smith is her partner but not related to you, you could easily put her name first and it would be perfectly polite.
You’re right that some etiquette rules are silly, and most people wouldn’t care how you address the envelope, but getting people’s names right is just common courtesy and respect. That’s the part you want to worry about – not the complicated "etiquette" that goes around it.
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By truefirstedition on Nov 27, 2009