Comments on: Wedding Invitation Etiquette.?

By: sue

sue — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 20:46:07 +0000

i am recently divorced-invited to a wedding where only an outer envelope -addressed only to me- was used. can i bring a guest?

By: Lydia

Lydia — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:50:59 +0000

I would think most often one would just put "and guest" for all invited guests who are not married, giving them the option on whether to bring a guest or not. Obviously if they are engaged, or have been dating a long time, they would be bringing that person along with them. However, I don’t think putting the guest’s name is necessary.
You will understand when you are handwriting out all the addresses and inner envelopes for over 200 invitations!
Just remember, printed etiquette somewhere does NOT always trump common sense.
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By: lalala

lalala — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:32:59 +0000

I agree....with Kat.
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By: kimandryan2008

kimandryan2008 — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 16:47:59 +0000

I was hurt when I was refereed to as "guest" for my boyfriends best friends wedding. We had hung out with the couple, I was living with my boyfriend at the time, and I’m "and guest." What hurt even more is that my fiance and his best friend work together, it wasn’t a chore to ask for my name!!
Now that we’re engaged I made sure to get the names of the significant others. It’s really not that hard to track the information down!
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By: nellbelle7

nellbelle7 — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 16:15:59 +0000

I am in accordance with Elle C.

And you know what??? Even if you find 1,000 people here on YahooAnswers who agree with you, you still have to learn to be civil and get along with your MIL. Do yourself a favor and let this go…there are bigger tragedies in life to worry about.
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By: Elle C

Elle C — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:44:59 +0000

I also posted to your earlier, now deleted question on the same topic. And while I agreed with you that your name probably should have been included on the inner envelope, I also think you should let this issue go and get over it. If you let your MIL upset you over something this minor, I think you may have many, bigger problems still to come if you marry into this family. LET IT GO.
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By: alavishaffaire

alavishaffaire — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 15:05:59 +0000

It can be tempting to limit your list by not inviting your single friends with guests — and that’s just fine, if they truly are single. But if they’re married, engaged, living with someone, or in a long-term relationship, you must invite their significant other (yes, even if you’ve never met him or her). Not only that, but you should include the significant other’s name on the invitation — don’t just write ‘and Guest’ if there’s a specific person in your friend’s life.
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By: Gem

Gem — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 14:53:59 +0000

Eh… I just finished doing MY SISTER’S wedding invites…some people were listed together, some people may have had a steady girlfriend… I feel like, unless I directly know you, or unless I ABSOLUTELY know your last name, I’m going to put the person I know, along with "and guest" then on the inner envelope, you can write "John and Sue"

It’s really not a huge deal that someone invited your boyfriend "and guest", they could have just invited him.
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By: sylvia

sylvia — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 14:44:59 +0000

Are you still going on about this?

I’m assuming you deleted your previous question because the Y!A community gave you insight you didn’t like, so you’re trying to get some support to justify this little tantrum.

Look, you can’t change the fact that your future MIL addressed the invitation to your fiance and guest.

Technically, he’s not married, so that makes him single by default, so if you really want to split hairs, that’s perfectly fine.

Are you really going to risk ruining your future sister-in-laws celebration and your relationship with this woman over this? I said it before, and I stand by it – Get. Over. It.
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By: ciao_gina

ciao_gina — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 14:27:59 +0000

I would think about the couple at hand and decide what would work best for them. Would either of them care if the envelope went to the other one? I would probably put both names on it and send it to the woman if it is a heterosexual couple.She would probably care more.
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