Please help with wedding invitation etiquette.?

July 18, 2008

I am a teacher and work with many great people. This is my first year at this school and although I greet many people down the hall, there are many people I don't know very well. My hall is giving me a bridal shower for the faculty to attend as well. My question is, should everyone I work with recieve invitations. This would be an extra 70 invitations. I have recieved mixed advice from family and friends. These are my choices:

1. Send every faculty member an invitation.

2. Place one invitation in the faculty lounge to show everyone is invited, but later mail invitations to members of the faculty I am closest to.

Please vote for the choice that sounds best, or feel free to give other options. Thanks for your help.

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  1. 15 Responses to “Please help with wedding invitation etiquette.?”

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    By lady31 on May 6, 2007

  3. The best way would be choice #1, but if the extra invites are an issue go with #2.

    You could also make up your invites on your pc for the faculty who are close to you. You can invite paper at most craft stores and print nice looking ones form home. Much cheaper and then everyone would still get their own invite.
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    By Mommy-of-Twins on May 6, 2007

  4. sugar, i'd just stick an invitation up on the board in the faculty lounge…u could mail 2 the folks ur closest with, but it would b redundant unless they want a keepsake…think they'd understand the financial aspect; weddin invitations aren't cheap…good luck!! :o )
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    By Aurora Blue on May 6, 2007

  5. # 1. the other choice might leave the other faculty thinking that they were invited because you put one up for all of them to see.
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    By anna m on May 6, 2007

  6. Hi there, in etiquette they say anyone invited to your shower should be invited to the wedding. HOWEVER this is not the case when dealing with a work given shower. You are not required to invite everyone. Most people understand that weddings cost a pretty penny, and understand that you can not possibly invite everyone you know. You should invite those closest to you, those that you eat lunch with, take problems too, share class time with.

    You could put an invite in the lunchroom. Then how would they rsvp to you? Also can you afford the additional 70+people to attend?

    Do what you can afford…. and then bring in pictures in the fall.
    (maybe bring in some cookies or cupcakes then too!)
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    By El on May 6, 2007

  7. If you want everyone there, then send them each an individual invitation. If not, you don't have to. Don't feel obligated to invite everyone to your wedding. I've heard it said that you shouldn't invite anyone to your wedding who you wouldn't invite to your house for dinner. I agree wholeheartedly.

    P.S.- If I didn't receive an invitation personally, then I probably wouldn't show up. I'd send you a gift though.
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    By Maria on May 6, 2007

  8. You know, if you invite everyone, and everyone actually attends, will they be also attending a reception???…where you will have to pay for every mouth that eats (including those faculty members that you don't know that well?).

    If they are just invited to attend the ceremony, maybe option number 2 is best…and then those closer to you can get a separate one that might possibly also be their invite to the reception. (?) Good luck with that!

    P.S. TEACHERS RULE!!! :o ) (from one fellow to another…)
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    By Chocolate Drop on May 6, 2007

  9. On a personal level I would prefer you invite your colleagues.
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    By curious on May 6, 2007

  10. If you do not want to post a school invite for everyone, then I would ask the individuals you want to come, for their addresses, and send them to their homes.
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    I'm a wedding planner.

    By valschmal on May 6, 2007

  11. #2 and remind some closest verbally ?
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    By Dotr on May 6, 2007

  12. Send every faculty member an invitation
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    By Josie r on May 6, 2007

  13. I vote for the 2nd option. I also work in a huge govt. office and am doing that.
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    By Butterfly on May 6, 2007

  14. they would know you were just being polite if you invited ALL of them..
    you should invite only those people you think should witness your special day.
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    By Rose S on May 6, 2007

  15. 3. Hang an invitation in the faculty lounge ONLY and not play favorites or you'll have hurt feelings that some got personal invitations. You dont need to start work with that kind of reputation..
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    By Bee on May 10, 2007

  16. only give a invitation to the friends you want and can afford to have at your wedding.
    just because they have a party for you does not automatically say you must invite everyone.
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    By bandyt on May 10, 2007

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