Is it poor wedding etiquette to bring a same sex friend as your ‘date’?
January 2, 2010
I have been invited to a wedding in Denver (I live in California) for an old friend of mine. My college roomate also lives in Denver – so I thought it would be fun to bring her along as my ‘date’ since I I’ll be staying at her house and I won’t really know anyone at the wedding. I am married, but its really not in the budget for both my husband and I to fly to Denver. The invitation was addressed ‘and Guest’ – What is the rule here?
no, people do it all the time. as long as the person you bring ain’t a jerk and has a good time, nobody cares.
[edit] what’s up with the thumbs down? casue i answered in a way that made sense? seriously, if your invite says "guest" then you’re allowed a guest. just as long as they have a good time and are polite with people, that’s all that matters.
7 Responses to “Is it poor wedding etiquette to bring a same sex friend as your ‘date’?”
No. That is fine.
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By PapasChick on Jan 3, 2010
When you RSVP, include a very brief note that the person who will accompany you is a dear friend with whom you are staying. If the bride has a question or concern, invite her to call you.
I am not fond of having perfect strangers at a wedding but your circumstances are unusual.
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By Tseruyah on Jan 3, 2010
I think it’s OK to bring your friend to the wedding since you are staying with her and your husband isn’t able to make it. If you get the chance I would explain this to the bride and/or groom before the wedding just so they are aware.
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By Terri on Jan 3, 2010
no, people do it all the time. as long as the person you bring ain’t a jerk and has a good time, nobody cares.
[edit] what’s up with the thumbs down? casue i answered in a way that made sense? seriously, if your invite says "guest" then you’re allowed a guest. just as long as they have a good time and are polite with people, that’s all that matters.
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By eyesareburning on Jan 3, 2010
When the invitation is addressed "and Guest" it is completely up to you on who you bring along. If it would have been addressed to you and your husband, then it means that only the two of you were invited. Perhaps your friend realized this and had the foresight to address it this way.
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By Jm e on Jan 3, 2010
It’s perfectly fine. The invite did not state, "and spouse." Since you are staying at her (roommate) house, this is a nice "hostess" gift to her. She’ll get a free meal, get to dance and meet people in her town.
When you go through the reception line (or as early as possible) introduce your friend to the bride, groom and the bride’s parents. It’s only polite.
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By elsobbeauty on Jan 3, 2010
You may not bring anyone of your choosing as a guest. If you hardly know anyone, your guest friend would know nobody- how is that "fun?"
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By JL on Jan 3, 2010