Comments on: Help with wedding invitation etiquette:GIFT REGISTRY!?

By: Gift Registry

Gift Registry — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 15:31:57 +0000

I also don’t think it is tacky. It’s better than they buy things you already have. Their gifts will be useless or you may not use the gifts any more.

By: involvedmale

involvedmale — Thu, 06 May 2010 14:54:49 +0000

what is amusing to me is that half of people say it’s rude and half of people say it’s not. no matter what you do you will not please everyone. half of your guests will be happy that they know where to shop for you and half will act like it’s rude. just like half will be annoyed with your stupid party favor’s on the table and half will expect it because they are uptight. it’s my wedding, hopefully it’s my only one. I don’t want 10 platters that I can’t return and won’t use. what I would like is that if you are going to get me a gift you be educated

By: freebird

freebird — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:28:59 +0000

It is tacky to include a gift registry card with the invitation. Normally wedding gifts come from people invited to the reception, and it’s the bridesmaids job to contact the people who are invited to let them know where the registry is.
Even when you have a registry you will get gifts that are not on it. Many people don’t like registries and will choose you something they want to give you. Like everyone else you just have to take what you get and write some nice thank you letters.
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By: sweetea

sweetea — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:16:59 +0000

Yes, it is tacky! Just because some people do it still doesn’t make it right. A gift registry is simply there to provide guidance, but you are receiving gifts! The givers of such gifts are free to choose whatever they want to give to you! If you get doubles, hopefully they will provide a gift receipt or you can pass along to an unrelated friend…

However, since you are getting married somewhere else, I suspect you will simply receive cash and gift cards…

Congratulations!
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By: verykristin

verykristin — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 02:11:59 +0000

Do not include the cards in the invite. Tell as many people where you are registered as you can, and let them spread the word.
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By: Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom

Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 01:45:59 +0000

Do NOT put anything concerning gifts or money in your invitation. That is incredibly rude, presumptuous, and tacky. They do not have to get you any gift whatsoever, and if many of them are traveling just to be there, you might be lucky to get very many gifts after they spend all that money.

Rude, rude, rude. Let the registry info pass through word of mouth, and then if you get items you already own, just take them back to the stores afterwards and get things you do need/want.
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http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200347&keywordID=218&keywordType=2&parentID=525

http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200422&keywordID=221&keywordType=2&parentID=525

By: Susie D

Susie D — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 01:39:59 +0000

I find them to be rather like bait – and it appears the bride and groom are fishing for a gift.

If I choose (and I always do) to give a gift to a couple who are getting married I will contact either them personally or their family to find out their gift registry, or I will send a monetary gift. My gift, my choice.
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By: Violet

Violet — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 01:06:59 +0000

It is VERY tacky and presumptuous. Gift registry is usually passed on by word of mouth. People will ask you or your family where you are registered at. Otherwise, be appreciative of whatever they can afford to get you. They do not HAVE to get you anything. You getting married does not obligate anyone to get you anything or entitle you to it. Their presence at your wedding should be gift enough. After all, if they don’t show, then you have no wedding, — just a ceremony.
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By: juniper

juniper — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 00:56:59 +0000

i dont like them. They look so greedy.
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By: Weed

Weed — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 00:26:59 +0000

I don't think it is tacky, my Son & Daughter in law asked for money so they could fix up their house , they had everything they needed,
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