Help with wedding invitation etiquette:GIFT REGISTRY!?
September 29, 2009
I’ve read that including a gift registry card with your wedding invitations is tacky. We’re getting married in Vegas, and I am not having a reception. I’m afraid my relatives and friends will buy us stuff we already have…..we have everything we’ll ever need, we’ll be mainly asking for stuff we want but still reasonable to request.
Do you think having a gift registry card with my invitations is tacky, or do you think it’s logical to prevent people from buying us stuff we don’t need? ((I need honest opinions here, I hardly see my family so they’ll buy us stuff or send us money reguardless to make themselves feel less guilty))
I have to add that none of my family members talk to eachother, so spreading it via "word of mouth" would be impossible since they hate eachother.
Do not include the cards in the invite. Tell as many people where you are registered as you can, and let them spread the word.
13 Responses to “Help with wedding invitation etiquette:GIFT REGISTRY!?”
I would not put the registry cards that the stores give you in the invitation…too many pieces of paper in the invite can get annoying and some of them drop on the floor.
I get some card stock paper and type up a note on a business card sized piece (Cut the paper down to size) that says "The Bride and Groom are registered at Target and Macys" or wherever you are registered. You can even use the preperferated business card paper that you can buy at a paper supply store.
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By Gracielacey on Sep 29, 2009
Nothing wrong with including your registry info with the invite. People who want to send a gift will appreciate the registry. People will most likely give a monetary gift.
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By mrsdeli on Sep 29, 2009
I would tell a few close relatives and friends where you are registered. Let them pass the word on to others. Personally I would not feel offended to receive a gift registry card. however, older people tend to find it tacky because that was not the way it was done when they where getting married.
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By Ryann on Sep 29, 2009
I don’t think it is tacky, my Son & Daughter in law asked for money so they could fix up their house , they had everything they needed,
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By Weed on Sep 29, 2009
i dont like them. They look so greedy.
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By juniper on Sep 29, 2009
It is VERY tacky and presumptuous. Gift registry is usually passed on by word of mouth. People will ask you or your family where you are registered at. Otherwise, be appreciative of whatever they can afford to get you. They do not HAVE to get you anything. You getting married does not obligate anyone to get you anything or entitle you to it. Their presence at your wedding should be gift enough. After all, if they don’t show, then you have no wedding, — just a ceremony.
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By Violet on Sep 29, 2009
I find them to be rather like bait – and it appears the bride and groom are fishing for a gift.
If I choose (and I always do) to give a gift to a couple who are getting married I will contact either them personally or their family to find out their gift registry, or I will send a monetary gift. My gift, my choice.
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By Susie D on Sep 29, 2009
Do NOT put anything concerning gifts or money in your invitation. That is incredibly rude, presumptuous, and tacky. They do not have to get you any gift whatsoever, and if many of them are traveling just to be there, you might be lucky to get very many gifts after they spend all that money.
Rude, rude, rude. Let the registry info pass through word of mouth, and then if you get items you already own, just take them back to the stores afterwards and get things you do need/want.
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http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200347&keywordID=218&keywordType=2&parentID=525
http://www.theknot.com/ch_qaarticle.html?Object=AI980914200422&keywordID=221&keywordType=2&parentID=525
By Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom on Sep 29, 2009
Do not include the cards in the invite. Tell as many people where you are registered as you can, and let them spread the word.
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By verykristin on Sep 29, 2009
Yes, it is tacky! Just because some people do it still doesn’t make it right. A gift registry is simply there to provide guidance, but you are receiving gifts! The givers of such gifts are free to choose whatever they want to give to you! If you get doubles, hopefully they will provide a gift receipt or you can pass along to an unrelated friend…
However, since you are getting married somewhere else, I suspect you will simply receive cash and gift cards…
Congratulations!
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By sweetea on Sep 29, 2009
It is tacky to include a gift registry card with the invitation. Normally wedding gifts come from people invited to the reception, and it’s the bridesmaids job to contact the people who are invited to let them know where the registry is.
Even when you have a registry you will get gifts that are not on it. Many people don’t like registries and will choose you something they want to give you. Like everyone else you just have to take what you get and write some nice thank you letters.
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By freebird on Sep 29, 2009
what is amusing to me is that half of people say it’s rude and half of people say it’s not. no matter what you do you will not please everyone. half of your guests will be happy that they know where to shop for you and half will act like it’s rude. just like half will be annoyed with your stupid party favor’s on the table and half will expect it because they are uptight. it’s my wedding, hopefully it’s my only one. I don’t want 10 platters that I can’t return and won’t use. what I would like is that if you are going to get me a gift you be educated
By involvedmale on May 6, 2010
I also don’t think it is tacky. It’s better than they buy things you already have. Their gifts will be useless or you may not use the gifts any more.
By Gift Registry on Jun 10, 2010