When addressing the response cards in a wedding invitation who should receive them?
November 10, 2009
As far as the situation my fiancee and I already live together so should the response cards be addressed to him for his family and friends and to me for my family and friends, just one of us for everyone or should we put both of our names on there (for return address)?
Just curious about the etiquette rules in this situation.
And what a beatuiful bride you must have been Mr.Sky
ink– You are hillarious!! I’m not that much younger than you so dont go there with the not living together thing.. that has been going on since the 60′s!!
Oh yeah.. meanie is just a play on my given name BTW.. Sometimes I earn it but I try not to.
I would think the person who is paying for the wedding should received the RSVP for the simple reason that they need to know how many people they have to pay for and either deal with the place where the reception is held or let whomever be aware of the changes to make the appropriate reservations.
8 Responses to “When addressing the response cards in a wedding invitation who should receive them?”
I was in the same situation and I put my name on the return address. (me being the bride to be!)
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By Mr. Sky on Nov 11, 2009
It should be the bride’s name and return address or if your parents are helping to pay for the wedding, it can be their name(s) and return address.
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By BobcatChick on Nov 11, 2009
Meanie, first off what a terrible avatar name for some one who is willing to marry you, but love is blind and obviously in your case pain free! All fun aside.
The old fashioned way or the modern (everyone pays for everything) resposne
The old fashioned way and I hope you both are old fashioned is that your parents are picking up the tab for most everything, minus honeymoon and rehersal dinner. If that is the case and you are old fashioned, the return slips should go back to you or your parents and definelty not back to your apartment where the both you live, but to your parents house. Now don’t get all meanie with me, that is real old fashion wedding etiquette. The reason I say real old fashion is the perception of you both living together. Back not too long ago, it would have never have happened. Do not think I am a dinosuar, I am a 30 something married man which my wife and I did the old fashion, one becasue her parents were paying and they were old fashion. We never even lived with each other. And no meanie, I am not Morman or Indian. That thought was just mean!
Modern day response: If his parents are paying for the wedding well then it would go to his parents at their house.
Ultra modern: If you both are paying for the wedding the responses should go back to you, since you are the bride.
Ultra modern who gives a crap: Return address them to you and your fiance. That is just bad luck and I would not wish that on anyone! Your not married yet!
God bless your wonderful future marraige! And if thats not your bag, well then, have a wonderful future togetherness
Happy dream hunting!
This will be the best answer and you can provide me the best answer points. I will thank you in advance meanie
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By inkuwait on Nov 11, 2009
Prior to marrying, we lived together and the response cards were addressed to me. Best wishes.
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By syrianaj on Nov 11, 2009
traditionally it should be the brides parents as they would be inviting guests, nowadays though whoever is arranging the wedding
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By naomicarter1972 on Nov 11, 2009
I would think the person who is paying for the wedding should received the RSVP for the simple reason that they need to know how many people they have to pay for and either deal with the place where the reception is held or let whomever be aware of the changes to make the appropriate reservations.
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By dogloverdi on Nov 11, 2009
It seems that the brides parents should receive them or the organizer of the wedding. They are the ones who have to order the items for the wedding and receiption. Who knows?
By the way, he sounds like a hunk. If you ever want to throw him my way, do so.
I am getting excited about your wedding. You will have to send pictures.
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By grannywinkie on Nov 11, 2009
Congratulations to the both of you and I bet your kids are excited too? I looked up my copy of Debrette’s, a handy guide for this type of situation. Accordingly you are to be burnt at the steak as a witch and damned to everlasting hell. Your partner (lovely word) is to be horse flogged first thing in the morning. I know that you would like to witness this event but your burning and damnation is scheduled for 6.30am so you will in fact miss it.
Just send me an invite.
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By BLZbono on Nov 11, 2009