This book is easy to read, easy to use, and easy to understand. It is a complete run down of all the necessary details and niceties to make for a wonderful, memorable wedding. She is not overbearing on the etiquette aspect of a wedding, but gently and kindly explains the effects of doing things in a "proper" way. I have enjoyed reading this and have found it enormously helpful. I would suggest this as the first place to go for wedding advice.
Discover expert advice for every aspect of the wedding - from the engagement period, the budget, wedding invitation etiquette, the rehearsal, the ceremony and reception.
Now she’s telling me she’s not feeling too good. She says she’s got a bad pain in her stomach and she feels dizzy. What do you think we should do? Could this be caused by the glue on the envelopes?
I’m sorry, Art… I think we all know how this is going to end. Am I invited to the funeral?
I’m trying to coordinate my accessories. I like the ecru background paper with chocolate brown writing for invitations but my dress, linens will all be in white. So do you think it would be better if any paper (menu cards, etc) at the ceremony/reception is white paper and brown lettering instead of ecru? People usually don’t think back to the invitation at the actual wedding is what I’m thinking.
I guarantee you that not a single person at your wedding will notice. Brides care about those things at least 1,000 times more than the guests do. Pick the stationary you like and don’t give it another moment’s worry.
pl help me out. i m confused!
its a bright orange with a touch of golden touch. i m thinking a horizontal three fold. hows it?
I was recently invited to a summer wedding in India where the invitations were an orange-gold color of linen, with red lettering. It was *BEAUTIFUL*. So warm and welcoming.
If the design is simple and modern — don’t do calligraphy or anything like that — it will be beautiful and set a nice tone for your summer festivities.
Good luck!
ps- Depending on the shade of orange, avoid black lettering — you don’t want to make people think of Halloween! Go for red to compliment it, or blue to make it "pop."
Knowing that wedding invitations set the mood and theme of the event, a princess bride should choose fairy tale themed wedding invitation cards to send to guests.
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Everyone knows there is a certain form and etiquette to follow when composing and putting your wedding invitations in the mail. And while styles may differ, there are some accepted minimums you should follow.
Make sure time is on your side
Generally speaking you should have your wedding invitations in the mail six weeks prior to your wedding. You should allow even more if there are any special circumstances involved. If you’re planning a destination wedding or a wedding around the holidays you might want to give your guests a little more time.
Your save-the-date cards can be a big help here, too. As soon as you know the date and the venue, you are welcome to get your save the dates in the mail. I’ve worked with brides who have sent the save the date and hotel information as early as 6 to 8 months ahead of the invitation. Giving your out-of-town guests as much notice as possible ensures that they will have time to make plans, take time off from work if necessary and be there for your big day.
What else goes into the envelope?
Don’t forget to include either an RSVP card or another method for your guests to RSVP easily. You should include a reply card with a stamped envelope so your guest can let you know if they will be attending. More and more brides are sending their guests to their wedding website to RSVP and posting more and more information there. While it can be acceptable to mention wedding registry information on your website, it is never acceptable to mention this anywhere in your paper wedding invitation.
Your wedding website can be a great resource for your guests, but it is not an excuse to slack off on the rules. Be considerate and make of each guests feel welcome with a proper, paper wedding invitation.
The details
It is widely accepted that you not use any abbreviations on any part of your wedding invitation – with the only exception being for ‘Mr. and Mrs.” So, if you are inviting your uncle the physician and your aunt, the correct address would be ‘Doctor and Mrs. Smith.’
This continues to hold true for the date and time of your event. For example ‘Sunday the twenty third of October at half past five in the evening’ would take the place of Sun. Oct. 23rd at 5:30pm.
This continues to hold for the address on the outside and the reply card of your invitation. There is no St., Ave, or Apt #, but there is always Street, Avenue and Apartment number. The only exception to this rule is the comma that occurs between city and state – ‘Atlanta, Georgia’ is perfectly acceptable. Atlanta, GA is not.
There also should not be any punctuation on your wedding invitation. Again, the one exception to that is the punctuation that occurs after Mr. and Mrs. Your wedding invitation should read like an elegant, formal request, not a series of sentences.
Proper Wording
There are many styles and ways to word the actual invitation; you should make sure you consult an expert for your particular situation. Traditionally, a bride’s family was the ‘host’ and thus mentioned first on the invitation. Currently, there are many, many different ways to invite friends and family to your wedding. Often brides and grooms will host and not mention parents at all. The groom’s parents may be mentioned if they are hosting, parents of blended families, can be mentioned; the possibilities are endless. Consult the wording guide at MyExpression.com for wording suitable for your unique situation.
How to invite
Addressing your guests on your wedding invitation envelope is important also. When addressing an envelope to a single guest, it is not necessary to note ‘and guest’ on the envelope. If inviting an unmarried couple who live at the same address include both of their names on their own line. If inviting two people who live at the same address, but are room mates, send two separate invitations. Obviously, a married couple should be addressed as ‘Mr. and Mrs.’ or with their appropriate professional titles.
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I go to a church where we have small group studies that 20-40 people attend (this is in a church of about 5000+ members). Now, generally the weddings at my church are practically open invitation, which I will certainly not have that. Well, in my small group, I am only going to invite like a little over half of the people. If i start inviting everyone, my wedding will be 300 plus people. I have been in so many small groups so I want to invite a lot of old friends and not just anyone because I’ve known them a few months in my new small group. I want to stop at 150. How do I tell people that they aren’t invited? Also, how do I word the invitation to let them know that only the people / person on the invitation is invited and they don’t have a ‘plus 1′ or ‘plus guest’ option???? Because there are going to be people that will assume their invited and just come. I need to let them know they’re not. I’m on a budget and the space I’m getting married in is too small. Also, this is a pre ordered plate dinner wedding.
Pre-fill the RSVP card for them like this:
Name: Miss Mary Smith
__ of __1__ accepts
That way its perfectly clear that only 1 person – Mary Smith – is invited.
Just be aware that etiquette says that if a person is married, engaged, or living with someone that they are supposed to be invited along with their spouse, fiance, or live-in. To invite a single unattached person solo is fine, but to invite a married or engaged person solo is a no-no.
My fiance and I have been living on our own, and already have everything we need, or could imagine we would need, as far as wedding gifts go by. We would like to ask our guests if they chose to give a gift, that a gift of money is preferred.
I don’t want to offend anyone (my family is not as easily offended as his) however it will give us a chance to go on a really nice honeymoon before he gets deployed.
Any thoughts on how to say this nicely on an invitation?
If you would like to give a gift please consider a cash contribution towards our honeymoon.
This is awkward, but should not offend anyone!
Have a lovely wedding!
Making your own wedding invites can help lower your wedding expenses. The most important reason not to make your own wedding invites is the time it’ll take. The best way to ensure that making your own invites works very well is careful planning. Many of us are usually shocked at the price of wedding invites.
Many couples decide to make their own to help economize. You may either make everything yourself or order basic invitations and envelopes and build your own sheets for RSVP cards, hotel information and a map and directions for the reception. Whichever strategy you select you are sure to save cash. When folk first head out to buy invites theyare sometimes just thinking about invites and envelopes.
Nowadays there are now a number of other items that will noticeably raise the cost of your wedding invites including things like tissue paper, save the date cards, RSVP cards and envelopes, embossed features, maps and direction cards, and metallic ink or engraving. Will all these different items you will can see how it’s possible for you to save a lot of money by doing it yourself.
When making do it yourself wedding invites it will pay to try a number of shops. Different retailers will have different prices on the same item. Itis a sensible idea to check out clearance ad sales items as well. You should economize by making your own initiations. Spending more than you want to for supplies can swiftly wipe out your savings. While making your own invites can save your money it’ll cost you a lot in terms of your time.
Preparing for a wedding can be extraordinarily stressful for a bride and groom. Things that take a lot of time like scrapbook invites or handwritten calligraphy can really increase the quantity of stress you are under. It is going to be must quicker and less expensive to use computer assisted invites for your wedding.
I am honoured to have just received a wedding invitation from a Bangladeshi Muslim colleague. I have every intention of going, but I obviously do not wish to inadvertently cause offence (I’m white C of E).
Can anyone let me know what to expect from the Ceremony itself…advise me on what to wear, including appropriate head covering… what are appropriate gifts, and if money then how much?
The Bride herself has far too much to do at the moment to bother her with such questions, and my other Asian friends are either Hindu or from different provinces/countries… so I am hoping someone on here can help 
Thanks in advance!
Thanks King Aqua … a subdued trouser suit, with something bright in the headscarf/shawl line should be fine then?
What about gifts?
Thanks Xlnc
II know that the Bride’s Father and his family are quite conservative, which is why I have decided on trousers (much easier to avoid any inadvertent skin showing!)… I’m now thinking of a rather elegant, sleeved tunic style top, probably in gold with black embroidery and beadwork and a matching scarf …
I’m in the UK and lucky enough to live in a very cosmopolitan town so I can get one of the local tailors to make the top for me in time for the wedding and do the beadwork myself (it is only 3 weeks away). gold and black slippers should be easy to find here too
I think I’ve decided on a very nice polished granite pestle and mortar for the gift … practical for grinding herbs (I know R has been properly trained by her Mum to cook!), and also an attractive item if she wishes to use it just for display.
Thank you both so much for taking time to help me out on this – I really appreciate it!
look,, its more culturally than religiously when it comes to weddings, so just dress up formally and no need to wear any head cover or anything cuz ur not bangali. u should know that muslims usually separate men and women in weddings, but not all the times. so just go there be natural and if ur a female, u can put an elegant scarf on ur head, if u dont desier then dont… and thats it. im not bangali but im muslim, and never mind any other costumes cuz those are all traditional bangali, not islamic…
have fun and if u need any other specific info feel free to email me
ur right, that outfit would be great.. and for the gifts thing just use ur thoughts and tatse ( which actually seems to be so elegant cuz ur asking these questions that show ur high politness level ) any way, for the gift thing again, as i said just go with ur chioce and be sure its not a bottle of fine wine or sumthin.( cuz in islam people are prohibited to drink alcoholic drinks ) and thats it…
have the best time and tell me how it was ?? 
I sent my wedding invitations out over 3 weeks ago. I’m still not getting responses. I guess this is more of a rant…I cannot believe that people are so rude and haven’t returned their replies by the deadline!
My question…if the BRIDE herself personally called you and asked you if you were ever going to send back an RSVP, would you feel embarrased? It’s bad enough that I don’t want half of these people coming…my family is huge and we have to invite all of them or become the outcasts. I haven’t seen most of them since I was 2 years old…and I would never be able to point half of them out in a crowd!
Anyway, what is the best way to get my point across to these losers who have absolutely NO etiquette? I’ll be calling them all within the next day or so.
Thanks,
Bridezilla
I had the same problem. We gave them 6 weeks to reply but needed a number for the caterers after the deadline.
I called everyone who didn’t return the RSVP card. I didn’t beat around the bush but simply told them that I hadn’t received the reply card and was trying to get more definite numbers of who would be attending. They all understood this and simply replied to me over the phone.
I agree it is quite rude. If they expect to be fed, they should send in their numbers so there is enough food!
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