Need help with wedding etiquette?
December 25, 2009
I need help with a few things here..
1. How early before the wedding should invitations be sent out? [We didn't do Save-the-Dates]
2. They say it’s rude to send where you’re registered in the invitation.. So how do people know?
3. Would it be rude to not send a stamped and self-addressed envelope with the RSVP cards?
4. Do bridesmaids already know that they buy their own dresses, or should I tell them?
Thanks for all your help!
1- You should send out your invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Any sooner and you risk the invitations getting lost on people’s kitchen counters and forgotten about. Any later and you risk the possibility of the guests already having plans for that day.
2-People will know where you’re registered in one of two ways: they will either call up your parents, MOH, bridesmaids, etc. and ask where you are registered, or they will receive the registry info from your MOH and bridesmaids when they send them the bridal shower invitation. another way they could find out is if you have a wedding website, because it’s perfectly acceptable to post registry info on there.
3- Yes, you must send a stamped, self-addressed RSVP card. One way to cut down on the expense is to have RSVP postcards instead. Postcards only need about half as much postage as a regular envelope.
4- Most bridesmaids assume that they are responsible for the cost of their wedding attire, but if you suspect for any reason that one of them expects you to pay for it, just tactfully let them know that the cost is their responsibility as one of their bridesmaid duties. (Like you could say, "I picked out this dress because I thought it would be an option that all of the bridesmaids can easily afford.")
Good luck!
