Need help with wedding etiquette?

December 25, 2009

I need help with a few things here..
1. How early before the wedding should invitations be sent out? [We didn't do Save-the-Dates]
2. They say it’s rude to send where you’re registered in the invitation.. So how do people know?
3. Would it be rude to not send a stamped and self-addressed envelope with the RSVP cards?
4. Do bridesmaids already know that they buy their own dresses, or should I tell them?

Thanks for all your help!

1- You should send out your invitations 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Any sooner and you risk the invitations getting lost on people’s kitchen counters and forgotten about. Any later and you risk the possibility of the guests already having plans for that day.

2-People will know where you’re registered in one of two ways: they will either call up your parents, MOH, bridesmaids, etc. and ask where you are registered, or they will receive the registry info from your MOH and bridesmaids when they send them the bridal shower invitation. another way they could find out is if you have a wedding website, because it’s perfectly acceptable to post registry info on there.

3- Yes, you must send a stamped, self-addressed RSVP card. One way to cut down on the expense is to have RSVP postcards instead. Postcards only need about half as much postage as a regular envelope.

4- Most bridesmaids assume that they are responsible for the cost of their wedding attire, but if you suspect for any reason that one of them expects you to pay for it, just tactfully let them know that the cost is their responsibility as one of their bridesmaid duties. (Like you could say, "I picked out this dress because I thought it would be an option that all of the bridesmaids can easily afford.")

Good luck!

Need info on wedding etiquette when it comes to invitations?

December 19, 2009

If we are inviting people to the evening do only, do you still invite them to the church? Also, there would be a waiting time between the wedding which starts at 12 pm and the evening do at 7 pm…so if they were coming to just the evening reception, they would have a wait….

If you are inviting certain people to the evening do only then you wouldn’t invite them to the church. You can get separate invitations for people you intend to just invite to the evening part than from the people you are inviting for the full day.

Is this good etiquette for a wedding invitation?…..

December 16, 2009

I received a wedding invitation in the mail and in the invitation was a message on the bottom that said "We gladly accept gift certifiates from the following stores……"

Then there was a list of about 5 stores. I found this to be pretty gutsy and rude especially since this couple have been living together for a long time and they both have been married before (not to each other).

Be honest if you think I am being too anal. Usually, I am very easy going. I just found this rude and while sure it would be practical to have gift cards, I wouldn’t have the nerve to ask for them! Maybe thats just me.

Not only does it take a bit of chutzpah to make your wedding present request on the invitation, but the wording…they will "gladly accept" cards from those stores??! Well, thank goodness they will at least accept those gifts. I wonder if you get them a gift card from elsewhere, will they unhappily reject it?

Wedding invitations etiquette?

December 14, 2009

My best friend is my maid of honor in my wedding. Her boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance is a good friend of my fiance and I. Do I send an invitation to him or do I just assume that he will be there as my maid of honor’s date?

Everyone who is invited should receive an invitation – This includes your maid of honour’s boyfriend. In fact, your maid of honour (and the rest of the bridal party) should also receive invitations. Finally, don’t overlook your parents – They should also be receiving invites.

When a single male received a wedding invitation, can he bring a date?

December 1, 2009

I always thought that when a single female receives a wedding invitation, she can RSVP and bring an escort. But a single male must RSVP as a ’stag’ Am I correct according to proper wedding etiquette.

whether you’re male or female, you can only bring a date if the invitation is addressed to you ‘and guest’. if the bride and groom addressed the invitation to you only, then you have to go stag. it’s VERY gauche for you to bring a date who’s not invited, there are seating and budget concerns to think of.

Wedding invitation proper addressing?

November 29, 2009

My wedding invitations don’t have an internal envelope. I wish to invite children to the wedding and reception but I’m not sure of how to say that. Is it ok to address the envelope to each person in the family on the postal envelope? How do you think would be the best way and closest to proper etiquette?

According to wedding etiquette, you should put each persons name that is invited on the outside. Children younger than 18 can be included with their parents names. Children over 18 should recieve their own invitation.

Although and family should only be used on the inside envelope, in this case since you don’t have one if you don’t know everyone’s names you may have to resort to that. (I don’t think anyone will mind!)

Good luck!

hi, can you give me the site where i can downloads FREE wedding invitations cards with graphics?

November 29, 2009

i want to make the widding invitation of my brother soon, that’s why i need the layout for me to do the invitation cards for their wedding

You may not find any free one , may be you can contact a graphic designer at website like http://definitivelab.com/ ,etc .

How much does a calligrapher cost for wedding invitations?

November 29, 2009

About how much would it cost to have a calligrapher address 100 wedding invitations (front only, no return)? I’m just looking for a ballpark figure.
I should have specified – someone asked my mom to do theirs, and she wants to know what is reasonable to charge. She did mine for free :)

$5 an invitation? Geez, that’s outrageous! It’s much cheaper to find someone locally who does calligraphy than to go with one of the internet companies that obviously scams people. ($5 an invite just amazes me. I wouldn’t want to pay that either!)

I’m paying $225 for 150 invitations (outside AND inside envelopes). It works out to be $1.50 per invitation.

wedding invitation wording etiquette ?

November 29, 2009

How do you word a wedding invitation where the bride’s parents are paying for 77% of the wedding and the groom’s are paying for 23%?
the 77/23 split was not intentional, that’s just what they are ending up paying…..

do you think that having their names listed on the invitation as the following is enough?–
mr. and mrs john doe (brides parents)
request the honour of your presence at the wedding of their daughter
jane doe
to
bob smith
son of mr. and mrs. james smith…….

or do you think that having both parents in the first lines are appropriate, given how much more the bride’s parents are paying?

Mr. and Mrs. Smith (brides parents)
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Helen Marie
and
Mr. Raymond Jones
Son of Mr. and Mrs Jones (grooms parents)

OR

Mr. and Mrs. Smith (brides parents)
Along with Mr and Mrs Jones
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of
Helen Marie
and
Mr. Raymond Jones

Wedding invitations?

November 27, 2009

Hi all! When addressing wedding invitations should there be a period after Mr, Mrs etc…?
For example
Mr and Mrs John Smith
or Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Mr. John Smith and guest
or Mr John Smith and guest.
What about Ms. vs Miss? Thanks! :)

Period after all of them except Miss if you are American. Sometimes other countries do not use the period. And Ms. is NOT for an unmarried woman, it is for ANY woman. Just as Mr. does not tell a person whether or not a man is married, Ms. does not make that distinction either. Miss is for an unmarried woman.

Mrs. and Miss are generally considered more formal, but making the distinction may be considered sexist by some today, so whether to use Mrs., Ms., or Miss really depends on the tastes of people you’re addressing. Older married women will often be quite happy with Mrs., while younger unmarried women may prefer Ms. to Miss.

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