Wedding Invitation Etiquette?
August 10, 2010
I am getting married in a few months, but I’m not having a bridal shower. I’ve always known it to be tacky to send the wedding registry with the invitations, is it still bad etiquette to send it even if it’s not on the invitation itself and on a separate card? Otherwise if this is not acceptable, then what’s the proper way of letting my guests know where I’m registered at? I can’t do word of mouth because the wedding guests are from all different places. Thank you!
What about a wedding website? You can include something in your invitations that say something like "for more information on our wedding, go to our wedding website" and include the link. There are tons of FREE wedding website makers online. Now if your family isn’t very tech savvy, this might not work.
Wedding invitation etiquette. How do I make it clear on my invitation that there is no +1?
June 23, 2010
I go to a church where we have small group studies that 20-40 people attend (this is in a church of about 5000+ members). Now, generally the weddings at my church are practically open invitation, which I will certainly not have that. Well, in my small group, I am only going to invite like a little over half of the people. If i start inviting everyone, my wedding will be 300 plus people. I have been in so many small groups so I want to invite a lot of old friends and not just anyone because I’ve known them a few months in my new small group. I want to stop at 150. How do I tell people that they aren’t invited? Also, how do I word the invitation to let them know that only the people / person on the invitation is invited and they don’t have a ‘plus 1′ or ‘plus guest’ option???? Because there are going to be people that will assume their invited and just come. I need to let them know they’re not. I’m on a budget and the space I’m getting married in is too small. Also, this is a pre ordered plate dinner wedding.
Pre-fill the RSVP card for them like this:
Name: Miss Mary Smith
__ of __1__ accepts
That way its perfectly clear that only 1 person – Mary Smith – is invited.
Just be aware that etiquette says that if a person is married, engaged, or living with someone that they are supposed to be invited along with their spouse, fiance, or live-in. To invite a single unattached person solo is fine, but to invite a married or engaged person solo is a no-no.
Wedding Invitation Etiquette, and Proper word usage?
June 23, 2010
My fiance and I have been living on our own, and already have everything we need, or could imagine we would need, as far as wedding gifts go by. We would like to ask our guests if they chose to give a gift, that a gift of money is preferred.
I don’t want to offend anyone (my family is not as easily offended as his) however it will give us a chance to go on a really nice honeymoon before he gets deployed.
Any thoughts on how to say this nicely on an invitation?
If you would like to give a gift please consider a cash contribution towards our honeymoon.
This is awkward, but should not offend anyone!
Have a lovely wedding!
Muslim Wedding Etiquette?
January 30, 2010
I am honoured to have just received a wedding invitation from a Bangladeshi Muslim colleague. I have every intention of going, but I obviously do not wish to inadvertently cause offence (I’m white C of E).
Can anyone let me know what to expect from the Ceremony itself…advise me on what to wear, including appropriate head covering… what are appropriate gifts, and if money then how much?
The Bride herself has far too much to do at the moment to bother her with such questions, and my other Asian friends are either Hindu or from different provinces/countries… so I am hoping someone on here can help 
Thanks in advance!
Thanks King Aqua … a subdued trouser suit, with something bright in the headscarf/shawl line should be fine then?
What about gifts?
Thanks Xlnc
II know that the Bride’s Father and his family are quite conservative, which is why I have decided on trousers (much easier to avoid any inadvertent skin showing!)… I’m now thinking of a rather elegant, sleeved tunic style top, probably in gold with black embroidery and beadwork and a matching scarf …
I’m in the UK and lucky enough to live in a very cosmopolitan town so I can get one of the local tailors to make the top for me in time for the wedding and do the beadwork myself (it is only 3 weeks away). gold and black slippers should be easy to find here too
I think I’ve decided on a very nice polished granite pestle and mortar for the gift … practical for grinding herbs (I know R has been properly trained by her Mum to cook!), and also an attractive item if she wishes to use it just for display.
Thank you both so much for taking time to help me out on this – I really appreciate it!
look,, its more culturally than religiously when it comes to weddings, so just dress up formally and no need to wear any head cover or anything cuz ur not bangali. u should know that muslims usually separate men and women in weddings, but not all the times. so just go there be natural and if ur a female, u can put an elegant scarf on ur head, if u dont desier then dont… and thats it. im not bangali but im muslim, and never mind any other costumes cuz those are all traditional bangali, not islamic…
have fun and if u need any other specific info feel free to email me
ur right, that outfit would be great.. and for the gifts thing just use ur thoughts and tatse ( which actually seems to be so elegant cuz ur asking these questions that show ur high politness level ) any way, for the gift thing again, as i said just go with ur chioce and be sure its not a bottle of fine wine or sumthin.( cuz in islam people are prohibited to drink alcoholic drinks ) and thats it…
have the best time and tell me how it was ?? 
Wedding invitation etiquette?
January 28, 2010
I sent my wedding invitations out over 3 weeks ago. I’m still not getting responses. I guess this is more of a rant…I cannot believe that people are so rude and haven’t returned their replies by the deadline!
My question…if the BRIDE herself personally called you and asked you if you were ever going to send back an RSVP, would you feel embarrased? It’s bad enough that I don’t want half of these people coming…my family is huge and we have to invite all of them or become the outcasts. I haven’t seen most of them since I was 2 years old…and I would never be able to point half of them out in a crowd!
Anyway, what is the best way to get my point across to these losers who have absolutely NO etiquette? I’ll be calling them all within the next day or so.
Thanks,
Bridezilla
I had the same problem. We gave them 6 weeks to reply but needed a number for the caterers after the deadline.
I called everyone who didn’t return the RSVP card. I didn’t beat around the bush but simply told them that I hadn’t received the reply card and was trying to get more definite numbers of who would be attending. They all understood this and simply replied to me over the phone.
I agree it is quite rude. If they expect to be fed, they should send in their numbers so there is enough food!
