PC way to address of formal wedding invitations?
November 16, 2009
In addressing formal wedding invitations, what is the best way to avoid saying Mr. and Mrs. Jon Doe on the envelope without it sounding clunky and yet remaining formal? I have always hated that the woman’s name is not on there, but I am not sure how to write it so that it recognizes the woman as her own person and yet reflects the formality of the occasion. Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe seems a bit tortured.
Any feminists with a flair for etiquette out there? Thanks for any help.
Place the names on separate lines, thus:
Mrs. Jane Doe
Mr. John Doe
(There’s no rule that spouses must share the same line of an address. And it should also be noted that the outside of the envelope is information for the postman, not the wedding guests, so the formality of the occasion really doesn’t have anything to do with it.)
Is it tacky to use return address labels for wedding invitations?
November 13, 2009
It’s not a very formal wedding and I can print my own address labels off my computer for free. Thanks for everyone’s help!!
or even the response cards
Yes it is considered rude. Almost every invite company will print the return address on the back of the envelope, and even then they only allow the address, not the names of who it is from. It’s standard and doesn’t cost extra at all. You can’t take an extra minute and write them out yourself if they aren’t already printed on back flap of the envelopes?
I am addressing my wedding invitations with caligraphy.?
November 13, 2009
Would it look okay if I had the return address preprinted on the envelopes? Or should we have that done in caligraphy as well? We figured it would be easier to have the return address pre printed, but if the two print styles will look funny, we’d rather do both styles in caligraphy. Any thoughts?
have the return address preprinted on the back flap and have the guests address in calligraphy be the only thing on the front.
pick an appropriate font (maybe something calligraphy looking) for the back flap and i think it will look great!
it will be easier and the two different styles won’t be right next to each other.
Would it be proper to address wedding invitations using your own computer/printer in a calligraphy font?
November 10, 2009
Originally, my mom wanted to try and do her own calligraphy to address my wedding invitations (it probably wouldn’t be perfect but it’d make her happy so I was perfectly fine with it). Then her friend told her that we can download free calligraphy fonts online and just print the addresses onto our invitation’s envelopes, so my mom thinks that would be easier if it would come out well.
Has anyone ever done this before? Is it even proper to do? I’ve always heard that they should be done by hand so I was surprised by this idea and don’t know if I should try it. I’m wondering if perhaps you can’t even tell the difference.
Any experience/advice is appreciated – thanks!
Wedding invitations need to be handwritten. The thank you cards can have labels.
Wedding invitations/addressing?
November 10, 2009
My best friend’s mother offered to do the addressing of our invitations. She is going to be invited. Does she write out her own invitation? Or do I do that one…will she think she’s not invited?
Also, she does not want to be paid. I am going to take her out to dinner, but I would also like to give her a small something. What could I do?
Wow thats wonderful of her! I would just make sure she sees her name on the list and let her decide, I guess you could go ahead and have hers ready and mail it out about a week before you bring her all the supplies!
So sweet of you to want to thank her, why not get her a gift ceritficate for a manicure? Think about it, she just spent hours writing out names and all for you, make her tired fingers feel better!
Need major advice about family situation and properly addressing wedding invitations!!.?
November 7, 2009
My fiance just found out yesterday that his brother and wife are separating. Although it is a sad situation, I need to send out my invitations this weekend. How do I address their invitation? As of right now, they are still living in the same house, but his brother will be moving out soon. Should I wait until he moves and then send the invitations or just send the invitation now and let them figure it out? How should I address the invitations? As of right now, it is addressed as Mr. and Mrs.They have separated before and gotten back together.
Another thing to add is that there are also three nieces and a nephew who will be living with the mother who have been looking forward to the wedding so I can’t exclude his wife.
Just send it to the home, addressed to Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so. Leave it up to them to decide if they will both attend or not.
How do you address wedding invitations?
November 7, 2009
would you address it Mr and Mrs. John Doe or Mr John Does and Mrs. Jane Doe? or just John and Jane Doe? and if someone has kept their maiden name Would it be Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Smith?
oh, and i’ll probably be putting Lord and Lady instead of Mr and Mrs (medieval theme)
It would be Mr. and Mrs. Jane Doe. Check out this website… It gives you examples of almost every scenario… http://www.wedalert.com/content/articles/address_invitations.asp
Is it okay to have fancy address labels on your wedding invitations?
November 5, 2009
I want to print out address labels for my wedding invitations, but I haven’t seen anything saying that this is okay? I have seen that you either write them by hand or hire a calligrapher. Any advice?
If you are going to have an extravagant wedding then…go for it. If not then I wouldn’t. A lot of people will take the invitation as a hint of how to dress and what type of wedding it will be.
What is the proper way to address wedding invitations?
November 5, 2009
Can someone give me the proper way to address them or a website that can help me out?
If two envelopes:
Outside addressed to:
Mr and Mrs Johnathan Smith
Dr and Dr Johnathan Smith
Dr and Mrs Johnathan Smith
Dr and Mr Johnathan Smith
*DR comes first, despite whether it is man or woman!
Mr Johnathan Smith
Mrs Jennifer Smith (if widowed)
Ms Jennifer Smith (if over 18 or divorced)
Miss Jennifer Smith (if under 18)
Master Johnathan Smith (if under 18; optional)
INNER ENVELOPE (or if only one envelope, use this):
Specify who is invited:
*Mr and Mrs/Dr and Mrs/Dr and Mr/Dr and Dr Johnathan Smith
*Mr and Mrs Johnathan Smith
Timothy Smith
Michael Smith
Michelle Smith (Don’t use "and family" as this will open questions as to whether little TImmy is allowed to bring his girlfriend Betty Sue, etc. IF Timmy is allowed to bring a girlfriend, send a separate invitation)
*Mr Johnathan Smith (if no guest allowed)
OR
*Mr Johnathan Smith and (Name of Guest or "GUEST")
~Use name if living together or engaged, or if you know it
*Ms/Miss Jennifer Smith (if no guest allowed)
*Ms/Miss Jennifer Smith and Name/Guest
Anyone over 18 should get their own invitation.
I bought my invitations from a local business called Paper Potpourri. It was great! They have a very complete list of how to address envelopes as well. http://www.paperpotpourri.invitations.com/
Is it okay to use clear address labels for wedding invitations?
November 2, 2009
I am on a tight budget and have printed out some lovely invitations myself, however I’m not sure I buy into the "invitations MUST be handwritten" rule. I found some clear address labels and tried printing out a sample in a nice script font and it looked very nice. Will this be a major no-no? I really think my handwriting looks worse on such a pretty invitation!
No there is no problem with clear labels. If you handwriting is that bad I say go for it. The rules that say the "invitation must be handwritten" is more of a guide line. I used labels 10 years ago on mine.
