Wedding invitations/addressing?
November 10, 2009
My best friend’s mother offered to do the addressing of our invitations. She is going to be invited. Does she write out her own invitation? Or do I do that one…will she think she’s not invited?
Also, she does not want to be paid. I am going to take her out to dinner, but I would also like to give her a small something. What could I do?
Wow thats wonderful of her! I would just make sure she sees her name on the list and let her decide, I guess you could go ahead and have hers ready and mail it out about a week before you bring her all the supplies!
So sweet of you to want to thank her, why not get her a gift ceritficate for a manicure? Think about it, she just spent hours writing out names and all for you, make her tired fingers feel better!
10 Responses to “Wedding invitations/addressing?”
yes let her address her own invitation so she will not think she is not invited and yes purchase her something special…maybe a cute candle in a special unique holder will make her feel special
good luck on your special day
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By sunbun on Nov 11, 2009
It would be weird to address her own invite, so you should address that one and mail it out first, before she starts addressing the others. A lot of people keep the invite as a momento.
As for a small gift, anything’s fine- whatever she likes- a scarf, perfume, a piece of jewelry, etc.
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By Violet Pearl on Nov 11, 2009
Take her out….for sure; be nice to her and then invite her.
Ask your mom for help, she´ll know the best way to show your appreciation and to surprise her best friend
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By locerma on Nov 11, 2009
That’s very generous of her to write them out for you. You do hers, let her do the rest. She’ll figure out that she’s invited when the invitation comes in the mail!
Taking her out to dinner and getting her a little keepsake is a nice thing to do. You can get her a little trinket box at Things Remembered… they are on the web, if you don’t have a store where you live. You can even get it engraved with your names and wedding date, if you so choose. You could also get her a gift certificate to a spa. If you don’t know which one, you can go to Spa Finders on the web and get a certificate from them; they have a list of spas that accept their certificates.
Congrats on your wedding, and good luck!
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By N8IVCA on Nov 11, 2009
If she does not wish to be paid, then do not insult her by paying her, sometimes when people say that, they really mean it. Dinner is fine, but leave it at that.
Give her your list of invites and let her go to work, leave her name off, and explain that you will be sending her a invitation.
I believe Miss Manners would agree with this..
Congratulations
oh. p.s by all means don’t forget to send her invite out, you will be very busy and that would be easy to do.
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By deb m on Nov 11, 2009
Leave her name on the list. If she wants to write one out for herself, then she can. If she doesn’t, then you can send one out to her separately.
Dinner would be a fabulous repayment. A small gift could be a nice bottle of wine, a beautiful ink pen, or even some movie passes. I think it’s wonderful that you are being so considerate of her. : )
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By Stalked by cowardly children on Nov 11, 2009
I would hand address her invitation and make sure she gets it before she starts addressing the others. Make sure you get her something special, from the heart. Maybe a small engraved charm or pendant. Something that she will cherish as you have cherished her friendship and help with your big day!
Congratulations and best of luck!!
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By his temptress on Nov 11, 2009
Wow thats wonderful of her! I would just make sure she sees her name on the list and let her decide, I guess you could go ahead and have hers ready and mail it out about a week before you bring her all the supplies!
So sweet of you to want to thank her, why not get her a gift ceritficate for a manicure? Think about it, she just spent hours writing out names and all for you, make her tired fingers feel better!
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By Ashlie on Nov 11, 2009
I say let her address her own invitation.
If she’s addressing the invitations, maybe a nice pen set.
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By baadfishii_35 on Nov 11, 2009
Yes, she can write out her own. It’s not a secret that she will be invited!
Choose a thank you gift that is something you know she will enjoy. Actually a thank you gift is really optional– the most important part would be a handwritten thank you NOTE from you.
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Book: Miss Manners on Weddings
By Etiquette Gal on Nov 11, 2009