Comments on: Wedding invitations-addressing the people invited?

By: Just tryin' to help

Just tryin' to help — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 00:16:59 +0000

You write it on the envelope. If you are doing an outer and inner envelope, the outside is addressed to either:
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith, if married
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith, if living together
Mr Robert Smith, if not living together or unnamed guest

The inner envelope would be addressed to:
Mr Robert and Mrs Jane Smith
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith
Mr Robert Smith / and Ms Jane Doe OR / and Guest

If only using the inner, name both parties and/or "Guest" on the outer envelope.

This is all depending on how formal you are, as well.

EDIT:: It’s not supposed to go on the actual invitation or the RSVP card. It is supposed to go on the envelope. If you don’t have two envelopes, write out the one you have with the same information as what would normally be on the "inner" envelope.
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By: Messykatttt

Messykatttt — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 23:56:59 +0000

On the outer envelope, it really doesn’t matter – you just want it to get delivered. So "Bob Smith" would be fine, and then put "and guest" on the actual invite.

On kids, this is tricky! Etiquette says that only those listed on the invite are included, so from that standpoint you’re covered if you don’t say anything.

On the RSVP card, you can do it like you’re doing above if you think it’s necessary, but tweak it a bit. The first line should have the word "number" in it somewhere; otherwise, people might see this as a yes/ no thing and just check that line – yes we’re coming!

Also, I’d suggest not taking RSVP by phone. There’s too much potential for miscommunications and it’s always good to have a hard copy.
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By: fizzygurrl1980

fizzygurrl1980 — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 23:40:59 +0000

I just addressed my invitations, so I just learned this: no, you don't put "and guest" on the outer envelope, as postal workers don't like this. So, if you have the kindof invitations with the inner envelope, put "and guest" there. If not, put a little note on the RSVP card of all your single guests inviting them to bring a "plus one." I would advise against using any wording that may suggest that they can bring as many guests as they want, though. When you ask for a total number of guests attending on the RSVP, you are opening a big old can of worms. You never know which guest will think it's OK to invite his 5 best friends, LOL. If there's no room on the RSVP card, you may want to consider printing out a little separate insert for all your single guests, inviting them to bring a "plus one".
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By: D4Pres2012

D4Pres2012 — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 22:57:59 +0000

well if the only place to write it is on the outside envelope, I guess that’s your answer. a better way to word the rsvp card is this:
we have reserved 2 seats for your party.
_______People will be attending
_______We are unable to attend

because people will ignore who the invitation is addressed to and they will write in the names of all their kids and friends and bring all kinds of people that you don’t want there. most people are ignorant of the fact that only the people addressed are the ones invited.
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