Wedding invitations-addressing the people invited?
September 29, 2009
I’ve heard that if you just want the couple there and not their children, or if you want to invite your friend and they can bring a guest, you write "Bob Smith and Guest" or "Bob and Mary Smith" but do you write this on the outside of the envelope that gets mailed to them?
Like will the post office see:
"Bob Smith and Guest
1234 pine st
Seattle, WA 98989"?
Or is there somewhere else you put this? We dont have traditional invitations, theyre picture ones so there is nowhere to write it inside, and the RSVP thing says this:
We would like to celebrate with you blah blah (i can remember exactly)
_______People will be attending
_______We are unable to attend
You can also RSVP by calling 111-1111 or email at aldkfa;@yahoo.com
So there isnt really anywhere to put it on the RSVP card too 
What do i do exactly?
Well crap. Like i said, we have picture invitations so there isnt an inner envelope, and my mom made the RSVP’s already (that is why i put it in my question) and didnt ask me what she wanted them to say (she works at a print shop thats why she’s making them)
so theres nothing i can do?
You write it on the envelope. If you are doing an outer and inner envelope, the outside is addressed to either:
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith, if married
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith, if living together
Mr Robert Smith, if not living together or unnamed guest
The inner envelope would be addressed to:
Mr Robert and Mrs Jane Smith
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith
Mr Robert Smith / and Ms Jane Doe OR / and Guest
If only using the inner, name both parties and/or "Guest" on the outer envelope.
This is all depending on how formal you are, as well.
EDIT:: It’s not supposed to go on the actual invitation or the RSVP card. It is supposed to go on the envelope. If you don’t have two envelopes, write out the one you have with the same information as what would normally be on the "inner" envelope.
4 Responses to “Wedding invitations-addressing the people invited?”
well if the only place to write it is on the outside envelope, I guess that’s your answer. a better way to word the rsvp card is this:
we have reserved 2 seats for your party.
_______People will be attending
_______We are unable to attend
because people will ignore who the invitation is addressed to and they will write in the names of all their kids and friends and bring all kinds of people that you don’t want there. most people are ignorant of the fact that only the people addressed are the ones invited.
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By D4Pres2012 on Sep 29, 2009
I just addressed my invitations, so I just learned this: no, you don’t put "and guest" on the outer envelope, as postal workers don’t like this. So, if you have the kindof invitations with the inner envelope, put "and guest" there. If not, put a little note on the RSVP card of all your single guests inviting them to bring a "plus one." I would advise against using any wording that may suggest that they can bring as many guests as they want, though. When you ask for a total number of guests attending on the RSVP, you are opening a big old can of worms. You never know which guest will think it’s OK to invite his 5 best friends, LOL. If there’s no room on the RSVP card, you may want to consider printing out a little separate insert for all your single guests, inviting them to bring a "plus one".
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By fizzygurrl1980 on Sep 29, 2009
On the outer envelope, it really doesn’t matter – you just want it to get delivered. So "Bob Smith" would be fine, and then put "and guest" on the actual invite.
On kids, this is tricky! Etiquette says that only those listed on the invite are included, so from that standpoint you’re covered if you don’t say anything.
On the RSVP card, you can do it like you’re doing above if you think it’s necessary, but tweak it a bit. The first line should have the word "number" in it somewhere; otherwise, people might see this as a yes/ no thing and just check that line – yes we’re coming!
Also, I’d suggest not taking RSVP by phone. There’s too much potential for miscommunications and it’s always good to have a hard copy.
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By Messykatttt on Sep 29, 2009
You write it on the envelope. If you are doing an outer and inner envelope, the outside is addressed to either:
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith, if married
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith, if living together
Mr Robert Smith, if not living together or unnamed guest
The inner envelope would be addressed to:
Mr Robert and Mrs Jane Smith
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith
Mr Robert Smith / and Ms Jane Doe OR / and Guest
If only using the inner, name both parties and/or "Guest" on the outer envelope.
This is all depending on how formal you are, as well.
EDIT:: It’s not supposed to go on the actual invitation or the RSVP card. It is supposed to go on the envelope. If you don’t have two envelopes, write out the one you have with the same information as what would normally be on the "inner" envelope.
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By Just tryin' to help on Sep 29, 2009