How to address wedding invitations?
November 22, 2009
I know there are a few different rules out there. The most traditional way is address the invite to "Mr & Mrs John Smith" and the modern way is "John and Mary Smith". What if you want to acknowledge the female’s name but at the same time keep the titles because they might otherwise be offended? Is "Mr John and Mrs Mary Smith" acceptable?
Also, some websites say you shouldn’t use "and family", but you should list all the kids names. What are people’s views on this?
Call me old fashioned, but "Mr & Mrs John Smith" is A-OK in my book. Its not like Mary isn’t going to know she is included in the invite – and I personally am looking forward to being able to get my mail Mr & Mrs John Doe – - I’m only in my 30′s and it will be a little exciting to see that!!!
If there is an inner envelope, then definitely write "John & Mary" on it, but if you only have the outter go for "Mr & Mrs John Smith".
"Mr John and Mrs Mary Smith" is acceptable – - but if I’m handwriting all those invites, its wordier than I would want to write!
"and family" is used whenever there are children under the age of 18. You would put the kids names on the inner envelope (if you have one), but "and family" on the outside is A-OK.
Wedding Invitation Etiquette – taking a guest?
November 22, 2009
so, my best friend from school is getting married! soooo excited. her wedding is in another state though, not too much of a big deal but all our friends from school, I thought they were invited, but they’re not. so i won’t know anyone else at this wedding :S
so anyway,she told me i could bring someone with me but i know she probably means a guy, i don’t really want to take a guy cos i don’t have one to take, so i wanted to take my best friend with me cos then we can spend the weekend together in this other state (and also hav fun with the boys at the wedding too, haha)
is that appropriate? or should i just find a random guy to come with me?
She said guest. Nothing requires that guest to be a date. I’ve gone to weddings and other parties as a guest with my mom, sister, best friend, etc.. The important thing is that you have a good time at your friend’s wedding and help her celebrate the happy day! Besides, I’ve been to too many weddings where EVERYONE was related and I’ll tell you, you don’t want to dance to certain music with your brother! As long as you don’t go crazy (knocking down the cake, kissing a married man, drunk dj-ing, etc…) it should be a fun weekend all around!
What is the proper way to write out the address on my wedding invitations?
November 20, 2009
Some of our friends live in apartments. Would I write A) 1234 East Main Street, Apartment F or B) 1234 East Main Street Apartment F or is there another way?
Choice A is the correct way to do it.
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Website for wedding invitation card in the US?
November 20, 2009
My wedding is in July 2006, I am looking for any website that have a lots of design for the wedding announcement and invitation cards in the US? If you know any, please recommend me,
Thanks
www.mygatsby.com
www.theamericanwedding.com
What is the best way to address wedding invitations, when there is no inner envelop?
November 20, 2009
I am trying to figure out the best way to address people on the outer envelop, since we don’t have an inner envelop to use. Ie for a married female friend and her husband, the formal way is Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, But the invitation is actually to her and I would like to put her name on it, ie Mary and John Smith. Also for families would it be Mrs. Mary Smith and family?
Don’t stress too much on the "proper" way to do it. Just make sure that it clearly indicates who is invited. You usually use the inner envelope to list out the specific invitees, so be specific on your outer envelopes so you don’t have a bunch of unexpected guests.
If the spouse is also invited (which is typical if you are inviting married guests) you could use Mr and Mrs John Smith, Mr and Mrs Smith, or John and Mary Smith. Mary won’t be offended if her husbands name is listed first. It’s her husband anyways.
If you are specifically closer to Mary (and not John) and she has a family, I think Mrs Mary Smith and family is ok. But you could also write The Smith Family or Mr and Mrs John Smith and family.
Good luck!
Question about wedding invitation etiquette…?
November 20, 2009
I am NOT getting married anytime soon, but I’m curious about something. I’m around a lot of people currently planning their wedding, and one of the things they seem to be unsure or not is who to invite from family…
I was wondering what people do when one side of the family is huge (for example, I have 14 aunt-uncles, all married, all have children so I have about 50 cousins that’s not including their spouses and their children… that’s only on my dad’s side) but on my mom’s side, there is only 1 uncle, his wife, 3 children (and their children).
What I’m wondering is, can you invite just aunts-uncles from one side, but invite cousins from another? Or is it considered bad?
My brother, as well as my current brother-in-law, are planning their weddings, and they seem to be stuck on who to invite, since they can’t afford to invite ALL cousins from each side… (my bf’s family is pretty big too, heh).
so, any thoughts? Bad etiquette to invite the would-say only 3 cousins from side, but no cousin from other side?
Hrmmm. Not my wedding. This is a hypothetical question, as well as trying to get some insight to help two family members who are banging their heads against the wall trying to plan their wedding.
All the family lives near them… And we see them all the time! lol.. dilemma… Their venue is free, so at least they don’t have that cost… and we’re looking into helping out (I’d pay for the cake, my parents would pay for the booze, etc), to allow for more guests.. but it’s complicated with such a huge family! It’s not a question of "balance" in the church, mostly just costs (and number of people in the venue!!!). Inviting cousins from my father’s family would mean about 150 more guests if they bring some children! (And they won’t do a no-kids policy, all family events allow kids, and we will have our own kids there so…)
I’ve judged it on how often I see them. I have several cousins who I see at pretty much every birthday, xmas, easter so they’re all invited. But some cousins live interstate and I only see them once every couple of years, so they won’t be invited. I can’t help if they get offended. the budget can only stretch so far.
Addressing invitations? How do I …?
November 16, 2009
… address a wedding invitation and make it known tactfully that I wish it to be an adult only affair? I will be hosting my wedding reception at my home in the near future.
You list only those whom you wish to invite on the outside of the inner envelope. Only those listed are invited.
It is considered rude to put "no children" or "adults only" on your invitations. Word of mouth works fairly well in letting people know your intent.
If someone RSVPs with more guests than you wrote on the invitation, and you know that means they would be bringing their kids, you might want to give them a call and let them know there is a limit on the number of guests, and you would prefer they not bring their children.
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
where can i find wedding invitation e-cards?
November 16, 2009
do u know any sites provides wedding invitation ecards plz help me
You can make them at cropmom.com at http://www.cropmom.com a card, collage, scrapbooking making site. They have templates and thousands of high end graphics to make your invitation. It is free to use for screen quality images. Upload your photos. Make a invitation layout using them. You can add your own text, crop, etc.
Then save it. Go to My CropMom and click on the layout invitation. Then click the "share" link. It’ll let you enter the email address of the recipient, and your invitation will be sent via email for free.
PC way to address of formal wedding invitations?
November 16, 2009
In addressing formal wedding invitations, what is the best way to avoid saying Mr. and Mrs. Jon Doe on the envelope without it sounding clunky and yet remaining formal? I have always hated that the woman’s name is not on there, but I am not sure how to write it so that it recognizes the woman as her own person and yet reflects the formality of the occasion. Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe seems a bit tortured.
Any feminists with a flair for etiquette out there? Thanks for any help.
Place the names on separate lines, thus:
Mrs. Jane Doe
Mr. John Doe
(There’s no rule that spouses must share the same line of an address. And it should also be noted that the outside of the envelope is information for the postman, not the wedding guests, so the formality of the occasion really doesn’t have anything to do with it.)
Wedding invitation etiquette – can a monogram be included?
November 16, 2009
My friend is getting married and would like to include her first name initial, her fiance’s first name initial, and his last name initial on their wedding invitation. She would like the last name initial to be dominant, with their first name initials smaller on either side, or something like that. Anyway, her best friend and maid of honor says that it is not politically correct to include his last name initial on the invitation since they are technically not married at the time the invitation is sent out, and my friend will not have taken his name yet. Does anyone know the correct way to go about this? Is the maid of honor right? Thanks.
Monograms have nothing to do with "political correctness" so your bridesmaid/MOH friend is full of it.
The monogram you’ve describes is actually a very popular style for wedding invitations, and it is widely accepted that once you send out the wedding invitations it is "correct" to use the "future" initial/monogram of the couple. I have seen tons of wedding invitations featuring the monogram using the groom’s last name. They are both lovely and timeless.
Tell the bride to do what she pleases, the invites sound lovely, and the MOH needs to cool it.
Cheers!
