Wedding invitations-addressing the people invited?
September 29, 2009
I’ve heard that if you just want the couple there and not their children, or if you want to invite your friend and they can bring a guest, you write "Bob Smith and Guest" or "Bob and Mary Smith" but do you write this on the outside of the envelope that gets mailed to them?
Like will the post office see:
"Bob Smith and Guest
1234 pine st
Seattle, WA 98989"?
Or is there somewhere else you put this? We dont have traditional invitations, theyre picture ones so there is nowhere to write it inside, and the RSVP thing says this:
We would like to celebrate with you blah blah (i can remember exactly)
_______People will be attending
_______We are unable to attend
You can also RSVP by calling 111-1111 or email at aldkfa;@yahoo.com
So there isnt really anywhere to put it on the RSVP card too 
What do i do exactly?
Well crap. Like i said, we have picture invitations so there isnt an inner envelope, and my mom made the RSVP’s already (that is why i put it in my question) and didnt ask me what she wanted them to say (she works at a print shop thats why she’s making them)
so theres nothing i can do?
You write it on the envelope. If you are doing an outer and inner envelope, the outside is addressed to either:
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith, if married
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith, if living together
Mr Robert Smith, if not living together or unnamed guest
The inner envelope would be addressed to:
Mr Robert and Mrs Jane Smith
Ms Jane Doe / and Mr Robert Smith
Mr Robert Smith / and Ms Jane Doe OR / and Guest
If only using the inner, name both parties and/or "Guest" on the outer envelope.
This is all depending on how formal you are, as well.
EDIT:: It’s not supposed to go on the actual invitation or the RSVP card. It is supposed to go on the envelope. If you don’t have two envelopes, write out the one you have with the same information as what would normally be on the "inner" envelope.
a good message to be used in wedding invitation cards for telling only blessings but no presents?
September 29, 2009
wedding invitation card message
Keep it simple. "The couple ( or "We" ) only request(s) your blessings and well wishes as gifts as this is what is most important."
What is the best choice for a calligraphy fountain pen for addressing wedding invitation envelopes?
September 29, 2009
I am hand-addressing wedding invitations and would like to use a calligraphy pen to do that. I tried out some ink pens today and found they were too wide. A friend suggested calligraphy fountain pens instead. I don’t know anything about them and would like more information. Keeping in mind that I’m a total beginner with calligraphy, here are some of my questions:
- Which one should I try? (specific brand and model)
- How is a calligraphy fountain pen similar or different from a regular fountain pen? Can I just use a fountain pen that I already own?
- Good online resources for buying calligraphy fountain pens?
- Other good calligraphy resources for beginners?
Try visiting a good Stationery store in your area. Most carry a good line of materials. You may not want to invest too heavily ($$$) if you are only doing a single project.
Since you already own a fountain pen, you may only need to buy a new nib (if yours is replaceable).
The only difference between a standard fountain pen and one used for calligraphy is the nib. A standard writing pen has a very fine point, where calligraphy requires a wider tip. Think of the difference between a ball-point and a highlighter.
I have used everything from the old quill pen & ink to reservoir fountain pens with various nibs to disposable calligraphy pens with equal success.
For modern papers, I actually prefer the less expensive ones. The ink will bleed through most paper if you use the old "dip" inkwell, or even most fountain pens.
And remember, it’s important that you always hold the nib in one position (don’t let the pen roll in your hand) to get the gradient line widths that make calligraphy so beautiful!
Casual Wedding Invitations?
September 29, 2009
Though are wedding is formal, we really REALLY don’t like most of the formal invitations. The style really just doesn’t suit our personality. We are trying to find some reasonably priced contemporary and informal-ish invites.
Do you know any good sites?
Here are some examples of ones that we like for this style so far:
http://www.invitationsbydawn.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns6767&sCatalogCode=WedEnsDD&iStartRow=33&lCriteria=3445&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsDDa
http://www.now-and-forever.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns4044&sCatalogCode=WedEnsNF&iStartRow=91&lCriteria=4707&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsNFa
http://www.annsbridalbargains.com/We_ViewEns.cfm?sItemCode=WedEns5351&sCatalogCode=WedEnsVA&iStartRow=1&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=yes&format=WedEnsVAa
http://pgp.cceasy.com/order/CasPage1B.cfm?sEnsembleCode=CasEns06280&page=1&strcontinue=yes&strsearch=no&format=WIACasEnsDT26
the last one is perfect!
Help with wedding invitation etiquette:GIFT REGISTRY!?
September 29, 2009
I’ve read that including a gift registry card with your wedding invitations is tacky. We’re getting married in Vegas, and I am not having a reception. I’m afraid my relatives and friends will buy us stuff we already have…..we have everything we’ll ever need, we’ll be mainly asking for stuff we want but still reasonable to request.
Do you think having a gift registry card with my invitations is tacky, or do you think it’s logical to prevent people from buying us stuff we don’t need? ((I need honest opinions here, I hardly see my family so they’ll buy us stuff or send us money reguardless to make themselves feel less guilty))
I have to add that none of my family members talk to eachother, so spreading it via "word of mouth" would be impossible since they hate eachother.
Do not include the cards in the invite. Tell as many people where you are registered as you can, and let them spread the word.
How do I address my wedding invitations if I do not have an inner envelope?
September 29, 2009
I mostly worried about people with guests. I only have a few children that will be invited.
Address the envelope with the formality of a "typical" outer envelope but the inclusiveness of the inner:
Mr and Mrs Jonathan Doe
Mr and Mrs Jonathan Doe
Sally, Suzanne, and Tomas Doe (Children are addressed oldest down)
Address
Mr Jonathan Doe and Ms Jane Smith (Invite person with named guest)
Address
Mr Jonathan Doe and Guest
Address
(Inviting Male, unknown Guest)
Ms Jane Smith and Escort or Guest
Address
(Inviting Female, unknown Guest)
Ms Jane Smith
Mr Jonathan Doe
Address
(Couple living together)
Though of course you want to name the guests when you can (dating couples, etc), it’s not always possible. Two of my future BIL’s were not dating anybody ‘exclusively’ when we sent out the invitations. Of course, they were going to get a guest, and it was going to be of their choosing. I wasn’t about to say, ‘Timmy and Sarah or Kristy or Anne.’ However it would be in your best interest to call and get names of guests who will be attending that you know – Stephen’s longtime girlfriend Lisa-what’s-her-name. Simply call Stephen (or his parents) and ask for the proper spelling of Lisa’s name. No need to volunteer that you don’t know the name. 
Also, avoid addressing them to "…and family." This leaves the interpretation to the invitees, and they may consider Sally’s boyfriend Tommy "family" when you obviously didn’t. (On that note, any child invited with their own guest should get their own invitation. Any person over 18 should get their own invite, even if they still live with their parents.)
am i being cheap because i want to do my own wedding invitation cards?
September 29, 2009
designing, printing on my own printer,
some people thinks i’m being cheap to do everything on my own!
The answer is No you are nto being cheap! The economy is in the crapper and everyone and I mean everyone is trying to save money.
You can do great invitations on your own and they will look good, you just need to have patience and time to do them so that they turn out professional.
Also , if you have never done this before, make sure you give yourself time to work out any kinks, because you dont want to be printing and figuring out things at the 11th hour. Make a test run way ahead of time making sure your printer can handle the paper and amount of printing that you will be doing. Also you have to adjust for color and etc.
Just sit down for a minute and plan out what you want.
Or go to some sites to get inspiration, like:
http://stores.ebay.com/Big-Boo-Stationery
Good Lcuk and Congrats!
Addressing wedding invitations to an engaged couple….?
September 29, 2009
I am sending a wedding invitation to an adult (40-something) who is engaged. Of course I want to invite her and her fiance, but I really don’t know her fiance very well. Do I need to send a separate invitation to him at his address, or is it ok to send an invitation to her that is addressed to "Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. Mark Smith"? Thanks for your help.
I would send the invitation to the person who you know better, if you aren’t comfortable sending it to the other individual.
You should address the invitation to the person you know, say:
Ms Jane Doe
123 Some Street
Anytown, USA 55555
Inside the invitation, address the inner enevlope to:
Ms. Jane Doe
Mr. Mark Smith
Wedding invitations with 2 envelopes okay? Tradition calls for 3.?
September 29, 2009
Do environmental considerations get taken into account in contemporary wedding planners’ assembly of wedding invitations? I love doing traditional things like this but I’m really environmentally offended by the unnecessity of the 2nd envelope (to house the invite). I think the outer envelope, invite card, RSVP card and stamped envelope are plenty. But it’s being called uncouth. Anybody who cares about the environment and about making things look good care to comment?
These days it’s perfectly fine! People are getting both more creative and more earth-friendly with their weddings and I’m sure no one will turn up any noses or be offended in the least by having only 2 envelopes! In fact, my invitations had NO envelopes, I got the fold and seal style with an attached post card style RSVP card and I got loads of compliments from my friends and family who thought they were stylish and adorable!
They even make wedding invitations that are made from recycled paper. I believe www.invitationsbydawn.com carries a selection of them and http://www.custompaper.com/invitations.html makes beautiful, handmade, earth-friendly invitations all occasions, including weddings.
Also, for fun, here’s a neat article I read that you find interesting about a couple who did their whole wedding earth-friendly: http://www.businessweek.com/smallbiz/content/nov2006/sb20061107_605364.htm?campaign_id=bier_smv.g3a.rssd1109h
Hope this helps! Good luck with your wedding planning and congratulations!!
Wedding Invitation Etiquette??? PLZ HELP w/a phrase!?
September 29, 2009
My finace and I have been living with each other for over 3years now and basically have everything we need and more. We literally don’t have anymore room for extra stuff that we will get as gifts for our upcoming wedding.
In the last few weddings I’ve been to, ppl had used "No boxed gifts please", "The bride and groom wish to chose their own gifts", and "Should you wish to honor us with a present, a Visa gift card is just devine".
I like the idea that these couples had about getting the message out for people not to buy them presents and instead give them Cash or gift cards. I want to do the same but I don’t like the wording of these phrases. I also feel pretty embarassed to ask my guests for cash.
So what do you think I should do? Should I not say anything and let people bring what ever they like and basically get rid of them after the wedding or throw a hint that I prefer cards/cash? A registery is out of the question as we really have everything that we could wish for.
It isn’t proper to ask for gift card or even items on your registry on the invitation. To tell your guests you expect a gift from them is rude, the invitation should not have strings attached.
If asked you can say you prefer gift card or cash. Word of mouth through the bridal party and family is how this should be done.
You can see if you can register for gift cards to your favorite places.
